Your Questions About Sit N Go Strategy
Sandy asks…
Can someone please tell me whats wrong with me?
Throughout my life I have not been able to concentrate on anything. I have started/never finished many projects and assignments. This has been a huge factor on my grades all the way through high school. I am a freshman in college now and I have promised myself that I would implement new study strategies as i have in the past in high school. None are working. My grades do not reflect my intelligence at all. Frequently I have had teachers tell me „Why a kid so smart has to work so hard, just to do ok“?. Professors and family tell me that I am college bound and that I am a really smart kid. Where are they getting this from in high school i had a 2.7 GPA, took a mix of honors/AP classes and regular college prep courses, a 480 Reading, 460 Math, 510 Writing section of the SAT.
I discovered I wanted to go into medicine to be a surgeon when i was a junior in high school (long story). This is the only reason why I am willing to put myself through college. I also discovered my passion for the human brain and discovered the major Neuroscience. Because of my shitty high school stats i have been forced to go to a community college to start. I want to do whatever it takes, I am highly motivated to be a surgeon but my mind for some reason isnt with me. There is so much competition for Medical School. If i dont have a 3.7 GPA im out for the running along with excellent MCAT scores. I have never been close to a GPA like that. I have had my fair share of A’s,B’s,C’s.
Along with not being able to concentrate I have had a lot of problems with the relationships of others and myself. I have had extremely low self-esteem all my life. I constantly think i am a subordinate of others around me. I feel like I am worthless constantly and with the requirements of my life goal to be a surgeon as high as they are, my mind doesnt help. This makes me very anxious, makes my stomach flip, i have constant abdominal cramps to the point where i cannot survive without rolaids in my pocket. My mind constantly races. I usually have so much on my mind i can never process it all (maybe this has to do with my issues with concentration). Sometimes i cant even have a conversation with someone because my mind is thinking about 10 different things. I get headaches from this and as a result I am popping advil and tylenol like there smarties. I get so stressed out from classes that i cut myself (one of the reasons why i had to audit precalculus) I have lost 37lbs in the last 3 months from no set diet and exercise program. I hate my appearance, i feel like a yeddi.
Throughout my life i have never been able to have any real friends. I had people that i talked too or hung out with on weekends, but i have never been able to have people wanting to actually call me, talk to be with me. I am very shy. The only people that see the real me are my parents and they are biased anyway. I feel as though some people are constantly judging me. For example, when i walk to class i feel as though people are making comments about my appearance, the way i walk, the way i talk, the way i sit down in class, the way i say hello to others, etc…I just dont feel like i fit in.
I have had relationships with girls on and off but nothing serious. Im a 18yr old guy who has only the experience of messing around with girls. Nothing substantial. There is a girl in my life who i think is perfect but is 25yrs old. Someone that old is looking for something more in a guy other than me….
I have nothing unique about me, i really am a looser, I have given up in life. I have tried to solve this by getting involved in the community, I am trying to right now by joining some groups that help people with intellectual disabilities and things like that. But even so I feel as though I have no purpose at all.
There are times I will admit where i feel like i am the body of christ. There are days when i get lost in my eyes when i look in the mirror. I hate this about me…
N.B.
I have been able to internalize these feelings all my life, no one knows i feel this way about myself…..I dont want anyone to know all of this about me because I dont want to be looked at as a weak person, a loser, low life, non motivated, piece of shi*t, scumb that should not be living
I have tried smoking and that doesnt help much, I have tried drinking but im only 18 and that can be hard to get…
There is just so much more that i cant think of right now…
Am I really just a worthless piece who has high aspirations?
36 minutes ago – 1 week left to answer.
Additional Details
–I didnt include my mood swings as apart of my problems. I would go through weeks where i would snap at people for no reason, the barista, professors, my “friends“, parents, etc… I have tried to talk to my parents but all i get is a father who does not believe in mental illness and a mother who keeps giving me the impression that i bother her with my feelings (she does care though)
9 minutes ago
Some people say that g
admin answers:
I would say ADHD it causes loss of interest easily and the inability to grasp things as quickly…. Usually you have „commitment issues“ and mood swings are definetly part of the package i was diagnosed 2 years ago and the medication helps with paying attention a little bit but the modd swings are still there… Mine are usually doubly bad because im a teengae girl so i already have raging hormones plus crazy mood swings built in
Jenny asks…
What is up with me. Am i crazy?
Throughout my life I have not been able to concentrate on anything. I have started/never finished many projects and assignments. This has been a huge factor on my grades all the way through high school. I am a freshman in college now and I have promised myself that I would implement new study strategies as i have in the past in high school. None are working. My grades do not reflect my intelligence at all. Frequently I have had teachers tell me „Why a kid so smart has to work so hard, just to do ok“?. Professors and family tell me that I am college bound and that I am a really smart kid. Where are they getting this from in high school i had a 2.7 GPA, took a mix of honors/AP classes and regular college prep courses, a 480 Reading, 460 Math, 510 Writing section of the SAT.
I discovered I wanted to go into medicine to be a surgeon when i was a junior in high school (long story). This is the only reason why I am willing to put myself through college. I also discovered my passion for the human brain and discovered the major Neuroscience. Because of my shitty high school stats i have been forced to go to a community college to start. I want to do whatever it takes, I am highly motivated to be a surgeon but my mind for some reason isnt with me. There is so much competition for Medical School. If i dont have a 3.7 GPA im out for the running along with excellent MCAT scores. I have never been close to a GPA like that. I have had my fair share of A’s,B’s,C’s.
Along with not being able to concentrate I have had a lot of problems with the relationships of others and myself. I have had extremely low self-esteem all my life. I constantly think i am a subordinate of others around me. I feel like I am worthless constantly and with the requirements of my life goal to be a surgeon as high as they are, my mind doesnt help. This makes me very anxious, makes my stomach flip, i have constant abdominal cramps to the point where i cannot survive without rolaids in my pocket. My mind constantly races. I usually have so much on my mind i can never process it all (maybe this has to do with my issues with concentration). Sometimes i cant even have a conversation with someone because my mind is thinking about 10 different things. I get headaches from this and as a result I am popping advil and tylenol like there smarties. I get so stressed out from classes that i cut myself (one of the reasons why i had to audit precalculus) I have lost 37lbs in the last 3 months from no set diet and exercise program. I hate my appearance, i feel like a yeddi.
Throughout my life i have never been able to have any real friends. I had people that i talked too or hung out with on weekends, but i have never been able to have people wanting to actually call me, talk to be with me. I am very shy. The only people that see the real me are my parents and they are biased anyway. I feel as though some people are constantly judging me. For example, when i walk to class i feel as though people are making comments about my appearance, the way i walk, the way i talk, the way i sit down in class, the way i say hello to others, etc…I just dont feel like i fit in.
I have had relationships with girls on and off but nothing serious. Im a 18yr old guy who has only the experience of messing around with girls. Nothing substantial. There is a girl in my life who i think is perfect but is 25yrs old. Someone that old is looking for something more in a guy other than me….
I have nothing unique about me, i really am a looser, I have given up in life. I have tried to solve this by getting involved in the community, I am trying to right now by joining some groups that help people with intellectual disabilities and things like that. But even so I feel as though I have no purpose at all.
There are times I will admit where i feel like i am the body of christ. There are days when i get lost in my eyes when i look in the mirror. I hate this about me…
N.B.
I have been able to internalize these feelings all my life, no one knows i feel this way about myself…..I dont want anyone to know all of this about me because I dont want to be looked at as a weak person, a loser, low life, non motivated, piece of shi*t, scumb that should not be living
I have tried smoking and that doesnt help much, I have tried drinking but im only 18 and that can be hard to get…
There is just so much more that i cant think of right now…
Am I really just a worthless piece who has high aspirations?
36 minutes ago – 1 week left to answer.
Additional Details
–I didnt include my mood swings as apart of my problems. I would go through weeks where i would snap at people for no reason, the barista, professors, my “friends“, parents, etc… I have tried to talk to my parents but all i get is a father who does not believe in mental illness and a mother who keeps giving me the impression that i bother her with my feelings (she does care though)
admin answers:
It really sounds like you might have ADHD. Do some research on the internet about the symptoms and you might find it to be shockingly similar to what you feel. I know from personal experience because I had ADD as a child but still have problems with concentrating, focusing, paying attention to something long enough, etc. It tends to affect projects I work on. I can always start on stuff and it takes so much effort from me to finish them. Its not laziness. Its not about not having enough motivation. It is like your mind/brain is working/sorting millions of things at once and trying to solve so many things at once. Its harder to slow it down and focus on one thing at a time.
My own son was diagnosed with this recently and he started developing defiant behavior in school and being treated like he’s a trouble maker. Finally after he’s been on medication, he can focus, pays attention, and has done a complete turn around! There are a lot of controversies out there about treatment but unless you get professional help and do something, you don’t know what can truly help you. You have to find out for yourself. Not every medication works the same for each person. They have several you can try. But unless you try to give it a chance, you won’t find out what can help or not.
ADHD can cause depression because of how people are misunderstood over the years when people have ADHD and never got help for it. It can affect your school work, social life, and work life.
Do what you can to research this area and also find a professional that can work with you to finding the answers. Don’t give up. Give yourself a chance to sort these things through. Everyone has their own hardships in life. Recognizing that you need help is the first step and can only get you closer to resolving this. One day, you’ll be able to put this all behind you and may even help others that have been there because you know first hand what it feels like.
I wish you the best and keep moving forward. Don’t give up!
David asks…
What am I worth? What’s wrong with me?
Throughout my life I have not been able to concentrate on anything. I have started/never finished many projects and assignments. This has been a huge factor on my grades all the way through high school. I am a freshman in college now and I have promised myself that I would implement new study strategies as i have in the past in high school. None are working. My grades do not reflect my intelligence at all. Frequently I have had teachers tell me „Why a kid so smart has to work so hard, just to do ok“?. Professors and family tell me that I am college bound and that I am a really smart kid. Where are they getting this from in high school i had a 2.7 GPA, took a mix of honors/AP classes and regular college prep courses, a 480 Reading, 460 Math, 510 Writing section of the SAT.
I discovered I wanted to go into medicine to be a surgeon when i was a junior in high school (long story). This is the only reason why I am willing to put myself through college. I also discovered my passion for the human brain and discovered the major Neuroscience. Because of my shitty high school stats i have been forced to go to a community college to start. I want to do whatever it takes, I am highly motivated to be a surgeon but my mind for some reason isnt with me. There is so much competition for Medical School. If i dont have a 3.7 GPA im out for the running along with excellent MCAT scores. I have never been close to a GPA like that. I have had my fair share of A’s,B’s,C’s.
Along with not being able to concentrate I have had a lot of problems with the relationships of others and myself. I have had extremely low self-esteem all my life. I constantly think i am a subordinate of others around me. I feel like I am worthless constantly and with the requirements of my life goal to be a surgeon as high as they are, my mind doesnt help. This makes me very anxious, makes my stomach flip, i have constant abdominal cramps to the point where i cannot survive without rolaids in my pocket. My mind constantly races. I usually have so much on my mind i can never process it all (maybe this has to do with my issues with concentration). Sometimes i cant even have a conversation with someone because my mind is thinking about 10 different things. I get headaches from this and as a result I am popping advil and tylenol like there smarties. I get so stressed out from classes that i cut myself (one of the reasons why i had to audit precalculus) I have lost 37lbs in the last 3 months from no set diet and exercise program. I hate my appearance, i feel like a yeddi.
Throughout my life i have never been able to have any real friends. I had people that i talked too or hung out with on weekends, but i have never been able to have people wanting to actually call me, talk to be with me. I am very shy. The only people that see the real me are my parents and they are biased anyway. I feel as though some people are constantly judging me. For example, when i walk to class i feel as though people are making comments about my appearance, the way i walk, the way i talk, the way i sit down in class, the way i say hello to others, etc…I just dont feel like i fit in.
I have had relationships with girls on and off but nothing serious. Im a 18yr old guy who has only the experience of messing around with girls. Nothing substantial. There is a girl in my life who i think is perfect but is 25yrs old. Someone that old is looking for something more in a guy other than me….
I have nothing unique about me, i really am a looser, I have given up in life. I have tried to solve this by getting involved in the community, I am trying to right now by joining some groups that help people with intellectual disabilities and things like that. But even so I feel as though I have no purpose at all.
There are times I will admit where i feel like i am the body of christ. There are days when i get lost in my eyes when i look in the mirror. I hate this about me…
N.B.
I have been able to internalize these feelings all my life, no one knows i feel this way about myself…..I dont want anyone to know all of this about me because I dont want to be looked at as a weak person, a loser, low life, non motivated, piece of shi*t, scumb that should not be living
I have tried smoking and that doesnt help much, I have tried drinking but im only 18 and that can be hard to get…
There is just so much more that i cant think of right now…
Am I really just a worthless piece who has high aspirations?
3 weeks ago (Tiebreaker)
Additional Details
–I didnt include my mood swings as apart of my problems. I would go through weeks where i would snap at people for no reason, the barista, professors, my “friends“, parents, etc… I have tried to talk to my parents but all i get is a father who does not believe in mental illness and a mother who keeps giving me the impression that i bother her with my feelings (she does care though)
3 weeks ago
Some people say that grades arent every
admin answers:
First congratulations on still being motivated to succeed and go to college. It’s always tough to provide an answer online because you can’t ask questions in a back and forth respones. So without hopefully sounding too presumptuous, it sounds like you come from a tough home life.
3 things stick out in what you said:
1. You said you have low self-esteem.
2. You have trouble concentrating because your mind races.
3. You said you have trouble forming relationships and your parents don’t really seem to listen to you.
All of the above symptoms make it sound like you were abused, or at the very least, mistreated as a child. You sound like you’re suffering from „shame“, which is a psychological term meaning that you have a painful feeling about who you are as person (see sourced article if this is true). You should see a therapist. By getting emotional support from a therapist (I guarantee you anyone worth their salt will not brush you off like your father or give you the impression that you bother them with your feelings like your mother), you will begin to heal emotional scars. Your thinking will get clearer, you’ll be able to concentrate better, and you’ll be happier. Lastly, you’re worth a lot, and a therapist will help you so that you see this with your own eyes. This is long, but I hoped it helped. Good luck.
Robert asks…
What is wrong with me?
hroughout my life I have not been able to concentrate on anything. I have started/never finished many projects and assignments. This has been a huge factor on my grades all the way through high school. I am a freshman in college now and I have promised myself that I would implement new study strategies as i have in the past in high school. None are working. My grades do not reflect my intelligence at all. Frequently I have had teachers tell me „Why a kid so smart has to work so hard, just to do ok“?. Professors and family tell me that I am college bound and that I am a really smart kid. Where are they getting this from in high school i had a 2.7 GPA, took a mix of honors/AP classes and regular college prep courses, a 480 Reading, 460 Math, 510 Writing section of the SAT.
I discovered I wanted to go into medicine to be a surgeon when i was a junior in high school (long story). This is the only reason why I am willing to put myself through college. I also discovered my passion for the human brain and discovered the major Neuroscience. Because of my shitty high school stats i have been forced to go to a community college to start. I want to do whatever it takes, I am highly motivated to be a surgeon but my mind for some reason isnt with me. There is so much competition for Medical School. If i dont have a 3.7 GPA im out for the running along with excellent MCAT scores. I have never been close to a GPA like that. I have had my fair share of A’s,B’s,C’s.
Along with not being able to concentrate I have had a lot of problems with the relationships of others and myself. I have had extremely low self-esteem all my life. I constantly think i am a subordinate of others around me. I feel like I am worthless constantly and with the requirements of my life goal to be a surgeon as high as they are, my mind doesnt help. This makes me very anxious, makes my stomach flip, i have constant abdominal cramps to the point where i cannot survive without rolaids in my pocket. My mind constantly races. I usually have so much on my mind i can never process it all (maybe this has to do with my issues with concentration). Sometimes i cant even have a conversation with someone because my mind is thinking about 10 different things. I get headaches from this and as a result I am popping advil and tylenol like there smarties. I get so stressed out from classes that i cut myself (one of the reasons why i had to audit precalculus) I have lost 37lbs in the last 3 months from no set diet and exercise program. I hate my appearance, i feel like a yeddi.
Throughout my life i have never been able to have any real friends. I had people that i talked too or hung out with on weekends, but i have never been able to have people wanting to actually call me, talk to be with me. I am very shy. The only people that see the real me are my parents and they are biased anyway. I feel as though some people are constantly judging me. For example, when i walk to class i feel as though people are making comments about my appearance, the way i walk, the way i talk, the way i sit down in class, the way i say hello to others, etc…I just dont feel like i fit in.
I have had relationships with girls on and off but nothing serious. Im a 18yr old guy who has only the experience of messing around with girls. Nothing substantial. There is a girl in my life who i think is perfect but is 25yrs old. Someone that old is looking for something more in a guy other than me….
I have nothing unique about me, i really am a looser, I have given up in life. I have tried to solve this by getting involved in the community, I am trying to right now by joining some groups that help people with intellectual disabilities and things like that. But even so I feel as though I have no purpose at all.
There are times I will admit where i feel like i am the body of christ. There are days when i get lost in my eyes when i look in the mirror. I hate this about me…
N.B.
I have been able to internalize these feelings all my life, no one knows i feel this way about myself…..I dont want anyone to know all of this about me because I dont want to be looked at as a weak person, a loser, low life, non motivated, piece of shi*t, scumb that should not be living
I have tried smoking and that doesnt help much, I have tried drinking but im only 18 and that can be hard to get…
There is just so much more that i cant think of right now…
Am I really just a worthless piece who has high aspirations?
36 minutes ago – 1 week left to answer.
Additional Details
–I didnt include my mood swings as apart of my problems. I would go through weeks where i would snap at people for no reason, the barista, professors, my “friends“, parents, etc… I have tried to talk to my parents but all i get is a father who does not believe in mental illness and a mother who keeps giving me the impression that i bother her with my feelings (she does care though)
admin answers:
You are 18 and think the world revolves around you. You think that everyone is looking at you, talking about you, and judging you.
They are not.
You may already know this to be true, thats why you do things to get their attention. Has it occurred to you that maybe you do not finish projects because of some unconscious motive: perhaps you want the teachers attention, or your parents attention (by getting bad grades), OR maybe you are scared that if you finish something and say „This is Me, the best I can do“ then your homework will be a reflection of you and maybe someone won’t like it? That would be my prognosis, you are fearful of letting others see who you are.
So heres what you do, find a project that you are really interested in, not ashamed to be interested in, and you do the best you can. You set out to produce something that IS a reflection of your capabilities, you show people who you are and what you are capable of. Its going to be difficult, there will be distractions, avoid them! Those are subconscious obstacles that must be overcome, and once you start recognizing them (your phone, random itches, doing this and that instead, tv, porn) as distractions it will be easier and easier.
If you want to break out of this, then your going to have to work at it, but once you do you will find that everything else will fall into place. When you have something that you can say, I did this and its awesome. Your self esteem will rise, you will have a sense of purpose in life. People (others) want to be friends with purpose driven individuals, thats what makes them interesting. Keep going and you will meet people with your same interest. And don’t worry about girls, they will come and go, women love a confident yeti, so do something/finish something that will make you proud, and then do another and another…
George asks…
I cant seem to think about Allah(swt) at all times through light..?
Salam so I really dont like it when i put Allah after things
i pray and all but idk i feel like ah wats the point just sit here and wait til Allah shows you guidance im not currently depressed(Alhamdulliah) but i have no more passion to go deeper into what Allah provides us. I mean shouldnt we always remember him through hard and beautiful times..
I want to put him first in my life.. but honestly I know how…reading Qurann i just want that feeling of Allah. not just for what he can do..I know its a test but how come when Allah shows me light I thank him and contin ue on but i seem like I forget about him til the next begging for help comes..the n I promise myself to improve my iman and strengthen it but.. im too busy too caught up. i mean i love Him but it isnt as powerful as when I need him…………….any tips strategies
JazaAllahu Khairan May Allah help us All
You know the bond weakens then strengthens….I need not to wait for something to happen but to make it happen but how?
admin answers:
Remember Allah during to good times as well as the bad times.
You have to keep balance in life. We all beg for Allah help when times are rough but forget him and praise ourselves when times are good.
Take a good look at your life and count the blessing you have, really try it. Take a serious look and think how many people in this world are starving, homeless, no family, ill, etc and be thankful. Remember Allah in prosperity and he will remember you in adversity.
There is no easy way, we all have our up and downs in iman, but pray for more patience because patience is the key to life.
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